Poly curious

Tuesday's first lecture in Café Klara is about polygamy. Kip Jansson from the Organisation for Polyrelations sorted ut questions and missunderstandings as polyamorous people face.

Kip talks openly and personal about his own process with living as a poly, that started with a identity crisis and a following depression. Now he is very engaged in the poly-comunity, and he is used to answering questions.

-If I find a resturant that I like, and decide to eat the same dinner every day, than people think I am a bit strange. The same with friends. It seems to be reasonable to have more than one. It´s not like that with relationships and relations. The mononorm is very strong.

-It´s usual that people think that polygamy is only about sex, which should be the same thing as saying that homosexuality is just about sex. It´s of course wrong. Other people think that it´s about fear to commit yourself to a relationship. Then I usely answer: Yes, I´m so affraid of relationships that I have two.

Other missunderstandings that Kip and a lot of the others face is for example that it´s just a fase you go through, that it´s not real love.

-I cannot understand why it should be deaper just because the relationship is exclusive. For example, I think that it´s very interesting to arrange surprises for my partner together with her other partner.

The lecture was finished with a debate.